When the Heart is FREE!

When the Heart is FREE!

For all the BASHERS! THE CHRISTIAN BASHERS, THE JEALOUS BASHERS, OFW GOSSIPERS whom in 2010-2017 YEAR CALLED ME prostitute, demonized, jezebel, home wrecker and not born again, ugly and worst mother, worst woman, divorcee and judged me because of my parents.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU!

The more you spoke those words, the more you showed HOW IMMATURE YOU ALL ARE. The more you poked my wound show how irresponsible you were.The more you talked behind my pain revealed how emotionless you were. The more you did say those words to me, the more you showed how STRONG I BECAME. YOU DID NOT KNOW MY DAILY STRUGGLES. YOUVE JUST HEARD OF it. STILL I FORGIVE YOU because YOU ARE NOT WALKING IN MY SHOES-. This does not point just out individual, I was also there. But I learned to ask forgiveness directly to the person.

You did not know how my pain was because you did not have empathy for my situation. You did not listen when I was in pain, You did not come when I was alone, You did not call when I was in my worst times. You did not feed me when I was crawling in hunger. You did not look after me when I was almost gonna die. You did not see the tears I cried in the darkest rooms of my house. And you did not know how much I felt when I thought everything was truly broken and irrepairable.


when I was in my deepest sorrow, I was comforted not on your side. But in the arms of the people who truly care without religion.

SOMEONE ELSE DID LISTEN. WITHOUT A JUDGEMENTAL WORD!


Thank you for showing me how God make things possible through your lives. You have been an instrument for me to know that there is STRENGTH within my soul. LASTLY, THANK YOU FOR TELLING ME THOSE WORDS. I FOUND OUT HOW WONDERFUL AND POWERFUL IMPACT I HAVE DONE IN OTHERS LIVES.

I write this with the intention to remind you that NO ONE has the right to say things against a person without knowing who they are. Regardless if a person commits evil things and you personally know it. YOU CAN EITHER GET HELP FROM AUTHORITIES IF THE CRIME COMMITED WAS AGAINST THE LAW or if it is SPIRITUAL, then pray with the person. You dont help the worst storm to gather more broken souls byt gossiping and spreading the fall of someone else. You have no right to defame somebody and pass what you know to other people. Your reckless tongue may be responsible for others fall, not for their failure but for the fall. Because words can harm a person and can break a person in Million pieces. And all the words you release can never be retrieved. It can leave a trace, forever…………

Remember, if you face someone having difficulties. Do not spread the news to everybody. Do not even push the person to say it infront of everyone else. Give the encouragement and let the person stand back on its feet again. Do not let the person be continually sin. In corrections, lead them with a right advice without poking the wound that they bear. You should be the person to close the wound, and God is the healer. You should be the helper to make someone be whole again!

Love lots

Rochelle

Asian Marrying Older Men

Asian Marrying Older Men

I came from Philippines, note from the northern part region called Baguio City. I met this swedish man and we settled down in 2007.I already had 1 son. SO we came to sweden and lived here. Unfortunately, he was aggressive and alcoholic. Very verbal and abusive psychologically, part of physical as well. I came to sweden because of his conviction. My nightmare started and despite the fact of hardships, I went and strived to gain education. Luckily I managed to study different curriculums and courses. But because of abuse psychologically, I developed PTSD. Gladly, the relationship ended in 2013. Whew.

We know that age doesn’t matter to some. And age does not limit when you are attracted and in love. But in my experience, I have learned that age actually has a roll if you want to have more interesting level of conversation with your partner. The age has its mission to create a different views and perspective of life depending on experiences and knowledge and the big big ATTITUDE problems each of us have.

The environmen I was surrounded to has lots of women marrying older women as well. But the community sees it as a money machine for us asian women. The case is not so. In my experience, I worked hard and I felt used. He could gain credits because I have no choice and I felt I had to. Many asian women though, uses this oppurtunity to gain wealth and create a false wealthy living whenever they come back to their own counrtries. Sadly, there had been a stamp that asians are whore.

I know that there are many successful relationships as well within this range of topic. There’s a couple I knew whom had 30 years difference in between and they are still together in more than 10 years. I know some couples as well far from my city whom had wonderful marriage and wonderful kids together. I have met lots of couples who have outstanding love stories to tell. And they are fabulous to hear.

But I guess they are not often known in the newspapers. Some of the couples I met had been divorced many times and had unfortunately met abusive men and suddenly the final marriage they involved into was the best relationship they had The more popular was the death or abuse of asian women married to an older men from Western countries or Usa. There as well arose articles about men who died due to different issues whom were married to Asian women.

Now, below I have questions for you all to answer Dear reader. Please address each ff questions with the numbers attached to it.

1.Tell me what are your thoughts, visions, perspectives regarding these trend?

2. What are your advice to the upcoming asian girls who plans to marry?

3. What are your words to the older men seeking for relationship within Asia?

4. What are your final words to all Asian men and women who struggled in their relationships all over the world?

Thats it for now. Thanks for passing by.

Love lots, Rochelle.