2016 I wrote this message… and looking at it.. while my own marriage is broken…and Im divorced twice.. Funny.. really funny.. but its true.
When marriage is in shaken, walking away is not the answer.
Calm down and speak with each other. Don’t call for emergency numbers and talk around.
Call God in the hotline of Prayers of not asking why!
Walking away is for people who are not capable of going to the next step of their lives.
Marriage is Honorable, and the bed undefiled. This means that when the shake is on the run, don’t think it’s over. Don’t take your shoe and don’t pack your bags and leave. Don’t call your peeps and say ” hey man! My husbands leaving me, or my wife’s leaving and I don’t know why, bla bla bla” who cares?? They don’t know you both much than you know each other well. You live together and not with them.
Don’t exchange the years together and end it into a one day leave. Marriage is not like movies, it is hard work and it is handling the motions day by day. Overcoming the waves by walking upon the water and trusting God and His love endures forever.
Sometimes, misunderstanding are huge and there are people around that really waits for both to split up. Because that’s how they handle responsibility. And if you agree with what they sketch you, you will be drawn to be like them. Broken and immature. Do not be conformed by this world. Because the world tells you that if you’re unhappy, you got to leave! The world tells you that if you are not satisfied then find another one! If your expectations are not met then divorce. That’s sucks and stupid! That’s the world! That’s not you! You are not of this world! You are a child of God!
If you are in an abusive relationship! I advise you to leave! If your husband or wife is irresponsible, bring him to authorities, if he does not comply with the law then you have to decide whether you leave or stay!
People who are not willing to handle responsibility are the ones who thinks walking away is the answer. PLEASE Stop! That’s foolishness!
Stay calm, and begin from the beginning. Learn to humble yourselves and submit to one another. Hear the case of one another, place your complaints about each other. And when all had been revealed, forget the problem and the records of wrongs. If you ask forgiveness, it is humbleness. if you get down in your knees and seek to serve your partner, it is not self-seeking.when you take your partner and move the change with him or her, it is kindness. If you set your heart to forgive even when there’s no harm done, it is love.
Speak good for one another and remember the love you had from the beginning! Start from there! ” I love you and I want to marry you”
Words sometimes are not needed but a big embrace and touch and affection and compassion is what needed!
Learn to spend time and listen to each others heart. And I’m not talking about abuse here. I’m talking about marriages that sometimes have been affected by environmental views.
Remember the words of wisdom!
Wisdom that comes from God and not from the world.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Remember, when you stayed and reached until gray hairs! You will not regret you made a good husband and wife!
Everybody goes this trials you know!
And few succeed!
It’s not because we live in the millennium and it was different before, but it’s because through the years, people become more and more self centered that’s why they fall!
And I don’t hit anyone’s toes! This advice is for me and for others who are in marriages right now! Or on the way to get married!