Ecclesiastes 4:9: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?”
Isn’t so wonderful to read this text? Just by looking at it, makes you imagine a perfect partner. Either a friend, a husband or a wife or why not some members of your family? But is it possible to find one whom are ready to stand with you in all aspects of life?
Are we seeking more for allegiance than seeking for an honest person whom would not dare to leave in the difficult times of our fall?
I often observed my husband whenever my mind goes in thoughts regarding if something happen to me, will he ever help me to stand or will he sacrifice for me? In that case the question turned to myself towards my reaction for him.
I often asks, where does his feelings for me marginalised? Is there any limit?
I find myself easily answered without a doubt, at all cost I would sacrifice and will do my best to help him. Not just because of love but because it is my duty as a wife to stand in his side both good times and weak times..
Isn’t it amazing as the scripture describes that two are Better than one, Because they have a good return for their labour? Which can mean to me that whatever the two does for each other, it is the benefit for two and satisfaction for two and not just for one!
So, in that case, I don’t expect my husband to do the same for me. But of course I wish he do but I won’t expect nothing at all. Why? Because expectations can fail you and can discourage you. Expectation towards your dearly ones can blind you to see the true love, I mean it disregards the effort and sensitivity of your relationship towards each other. Expectations requires something to be received fulfilling one way edification which is reverse of
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
That is way too strong to read. Even if we read it slowly…then you know what Love is in marriage part.. indeed in marriage, and in loving your husband or partner does not necessarily based by what you feel or by what your emotions tell you. It is based by your lifestyle, the way you would treat one another. I believe that the foundation of marriage is either the intimacy and the deep sensitivity towards one another. Knowing exactly your partner from within. Not shoving away their feelings but also correction to make the person become better than what we are..
that’s how I see myself for my husband. I know I can’t do it perfectly, but I know deep within myself that I do my best and he don’t need to do things towards me unless he is observant..