Most people have felt sad or depressed at times. Feeling depressed can be a normal reaction to loss, life’s struggles, or an injured self-esteem.
But when feelings of intense sadness — including feeling helpless, hopeless, and worthless — last for many days to weeks and keep you from functioning normally, your depression may be something more than sadness. It may very well be clinical depression — a treatable medical condition.
Depression comes to all rich nor poor. It is more rare this days because of life’s changes and challenges. People who have depression is in need of attention, love, compliments, belong to a certain group or activities, worthy, affection, passion,encouragement and respect.
Robin Williams,Charlie Sheen in”two and half man”,Margareth Thatcher and lots of known people is the evidence of the modern lifestyle. Depression can lead to death. Because of hopelessness and resentment. Uncontent, Being lack of attention and affection.
Achievements comes in two categories:
1.to achieve something because you want it.
2.to achieve something because everyone, someone, family want it.
Achievements are a proof that a person can achieve so much to get compliments and attention, but can’t get love and emotional affection. A person who goes through depression needs company, not to talk to but someone that is prepared to listen. A stressful life and demanding lifestyle or demanding people like we have now are the causes of anxiety and depression among youth and adulthood.
I have been to depression and anxiety, I thought then I was just normally sad and my mornings are not that special for me to think about. All of those days, I see nothing and but danger. everything is something to worry about, and that all people are the same. it is because, we all have our instinct. once things had happened to us, we normally change our behaviour and we normally defend ourselves into something we are scared of. I have spoken to some family and relatives and needing time and attention, but none have time to listen. well, theres nothing much to talk about but I was needing a company. I was afraid to be alone because I know by myself that there is a tendency I would hurt myself.
My friends had left, my family didnt really care, or else I suppose they might not really know how to deal with me or how to handle me. My behaviour is very devastatingly aggressive and I could say that i am very far to talk to. I was Always defensive and there is no way they could speak without me thinking it is against me.
I have lost my hope and I am more restless. i have been very suspicious with eveything and everybody. it went way too far from childhood memories, tragedies, family problems. dont get me wrong with family problems, it was when my parents separated and I didnt understand nothing. before, it is usually rare to not speak with children regarding parents in separation and that is what had happened to me. That caused me deeply and everytime I ask my mother, she wouldnt give me a clear answer but says ”you will understand when you grow up”. most of the time parents treat children as fools. anyways, my parents didnt spoke to me really.maybe not to know everything but to know that mama and papa will never live together anymore. I was bullied in my school years and been beaten up by my mother. Had been into different childabuse and been sexually abused. I dont blame them, but then my resentment was too high that I even feel like I wanna die. My depression started slowly, since my first relationship, I have been very happy and thought all will go well.. But then his rejection and silence had broke me down. then comes along few more relationshipås that never succeeded because i feel it is very demanding in time, energy and my efforts are not really seen.I have been into many stuff that when I Think of it now, I regret many of those. I have done things and I have been judged by many. I have been fooled and I have hurt many too.. And those emotions and conscience I felt make me feel bad. So my resentment grew along with me since in the teenage years. Then I was married and got Children, still the depression is getting worse because my marriage was not a happily marriage. My ex were haughty in Words, drinking sometimes but when he drink, it is totally large consumptions of alcohol. my tragedies gave me flash backs ad nightmares. my heart pumped as if I am in a Marathon. My ex is kind in a way but he dont know how to handle emotions, he dont know either how to handle a woman or how to show love by that time. Because he himself has his own demons that chase him in his sleep.
My anxiety became worse that even when I had already Children, I even forget them and my family sometimes. I was nearly to suicidal in a train Railway, luckily some people saved me….that is why I am sitting here in Writing this down.. and some of my archives are even regarding how i felt then under my depression. so ..after that suicidal moment, I seek professional help from a Psychologists. they represent to be the ”Listener, Encouragement lifter” which supposedly family and friends role. then I Went through sessions speaking about my childhood, tragedies and abuses, family problems and rejection. And afterwards, I have been forwarded to a psychology specialist.Then through medication and talk sessions, it helped me to Think better and release all the things I have in mind.
Achievements and success was too difficult for me to reach because my obligations must comes first, I never had a cuddle time with my parents, never hear I love you child, never been kissed in the cheek enough and never been sung a lullaby at night.
So I encourage you parents to give time on your children and treat them well. when they ask things, thats curiousity and, you dont need to tell everything but you can tell the purpose and the logic of it.if you know what I mean.
Listen to your family or relatives who have been having a difficult time, they wont need you to speak but they need your presence and for you to listen to let them feel theyre not alone. tell them they are loved, encourage them to do things they like, enhance them and never ever compare them to anyone. lift up their chin and tell them they are worthy.
People who suffer depression have tendency of suicidal and hurting themselves. well I have been there so..
to prevent depression and anxiety for becoming worse is to give them space but give them the affection, time and love. never leave them whenever they need someone to be beside them. they wont speak what they feel at that moment but you can see the restlessness in their face, behaviour, pessimism, sleeplessnights.
they wont talk about their situation because people in depression do not understand that they go through it, but only feel like they cannot move on anymore that eveything is very difficult.
How Do I Know If I Have Depression?
According to the DSM-5, a manual used to diagnose mental disorders, depression occurs when you have at least five of the following symptoms at the same time:
A depressed mood during most of the day, particularly in the morning
Fatigue or loss of energy almost every day
Feelings of worthlessness or guilt almost every day
Impaired concentration, indecisiveness
Insomnia (an inability to sleep) or hypersomnia (excessive sleeping) almost every day
Markedly diminished interest or pleasure in almost all activities nearly every day
Recurring thoughts of death or suicide (not just fearing death)
A sense of restlessness or being slowed down
Significant weight loss or weight gain
A key sign of depression is either depressed mood or loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed. For a diagnosis of depression, these signs should be present most of the day either daily or nearly daily for at least two weeks. In addition, the depressive symptoms need to cause clinically significant distress or impairment. They cannot be due to the direct effects of a substance, for example, a drug or medication. Nor can they be the result of a medical condition such as hypothyroidism.
And in our modern generation, I believed that God already had known that we will meet this trials. In the Bible itself, it speaks of the mind weaknesses, that most people weigh more the appreciation and value of others rather than being content on themselves.
Here’s the verses…
Psalm 94:19 NIV
When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.
-When the inner sadness is very huge, and sadness had covered the heart of a person.. your Comfort and Company will make them a Little better.
Ecclesiastes 11:10 NIV
So then, banish anxiety from your heart and cast off the troubles of your body, for youth and vigor are meaningless.
– Strength and youth is nothing, anxiety can come to all. rejecting it is not easy but must try to Think of the positive things of Life.
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
– Believe in God, maybe not all Believe in Him. But I know Deep in the hearts of every individual that they Believe there is something higher. Believe for the possibilities and hope for the better.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
1 Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
1 Peter 5:7
Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.
Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.
– all the Words that comes out of our toungue can enormously damage someone’s soul. so let us be careful in speaking. we must encourage one Another, give each other hope and a help of hand to create a good ambience in our Life and even give a smile to one’s heart.-
“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven.
Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.
For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.”
When the cares of my heart are many, your consolations cheer my soul.
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.
Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
2 Corinthians 12:10
For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
1 Corinthians 6:19
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own,
More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.